See You Next Year…God Willing

Hello Loves! Sometimes in life you just have to take every single minute of the day and use it all up on yourself! So, off I go to do just that. I am trying to figure a few things out, health, personally, and professionally wise, to get to a place that I feel better about things that I can control. In order to have a better sense of the controlling capabilities that I have, I must take the time to just be and do me.

So I am taking the rest of this year to focus on my plan of action that I have come up with to tune in to me and tune out to the very chatty and noisy world around me. Since I am stepping away from my blog and offline socially, I want to wish everyone a Glorious Halloween, Happy Thanksgiving, a Merry Christmas, and cheers to close out of another year of life for the books!

Have you ever felt like you needed to take some time away from the online “world”? God willing I will be back online at the start of the New Year and the start of a new decade, sharing some exciting news of some sort. Remember this, that it is ok to step away to step into your life in a more connected way.

Much Love, Nic

Will Never Forget When She Told Me This

Hi my loves! Have you every been bullied by a teacher? I have, and it affected me in such a prolific way still till this day. With my blog being a space of lovingly living courageously I thought I would share my own story.

I always remember this teacher that I had that was beyond mean to me and made my life a living hell in elementary school for an entire school year.  She would pick on me in front of the class, comparing me to her favorite student, making me feel stupid, and at times worthless because I was not ever going to be like her fave student.  I remember I would think to myself, I REALLY didn’t want to be like her, she was stuck up, rude and couldn’t even multiply.  I just didn’t want to be ridiculed in front of the class, I just wanted to do my work and go home!

It wasn’t until the summer before my freshman year in high school when I ran into that teacher again that I was in for a shock.  She looked happy to see me…praised how smart I was and always knew that I was, for getting into the school that I was attending in the Fall and how I’d grown into such a stunning, beautiful young lady.  Pan to me, staring in complete shock thinking…what was I to make of these words, were these words what she really thought?  I had always remembered how cruel she was to me and those days I would go the bathroom and just cry my eyes out.  Was this the same teacher?  Being the polite southern girl that I was, I said thank you, forced a smile, and hide until she left.  

A few years later after that I found out that she had passed away from cancer. It was in this moment that my experience with her came into even more of a better perspective.  You do what you are experiencing. If you are unhappy with your appearance you will make other people unhappy with their appearance.  She was overweight and would always make comments about my appearance, and how I thought I was better than everyone else in front of the class.  

When life humbles us we can be kind with our words and attempt to right those wrongs that we have done to other people.  I was not aware but at the time I saw her that summer she had been battling cancer.  Humbled by her current experience, making amends for all those days of heart ache and sadness that she caused me.  Sharing kind words of encouragement that I so longed to hear back then, but can humbly say that I was able to experience years later, than not.  

I never wish hard moments on anyone, but as I stand here on the other side of many a moment of pain and bad experiences, I know how these many things serves us to make us stronger and give us perspective on being better humans.  I never want to make anyone feel how I felt that entire school year in elementary, but feel only the goodness of kind words that summer before the start of high school.  It is that memory, among many others, that guides me to be kind to others.  It is that memory that also allows me the compassion to see people for more than the words that they may share, if only from a place of pain.

Much Love, Nic

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Where You Are Is Good

Happy Friday loves! How has your day, week, been for you? Have you been feeling anything other than yes, today was an amazing day? Get real and be real, that’s how you start acknowledging how you want things to be different than they are. There is always hope for something new and different!

Sometimes life can be and feel overwhelming that when we want to make things better or change things we just don’t know how.  We can become confused or simply feel stuck with just the thought of trying to figure out what direction or move to make to move things in a better direction.  We may think that we have to have something or accomplish this or that before we can begin to make that change.  Lean, in let me whisper something in your ear…you have to start somewhere and there is no better place to start then where you stand. 

Yup, all you can do is be how you are right now and in order to make that something different you must start right there as you exist. I have found that starting at YOUR starting line, can help things seem a little less daunting when you turn in and tune in to where YOU are.  Focus on what can be accomplished from where you are and put things into action.  Once you are in action things will move you in the direction that you need to go in. Obstacles that were once there will disappear or appear not as obstacles but simply stepping stones.

Take the first steps from where you are today, this Friday!  Focus on what you can do from where you are.  There is always something that can be done right where you are, just focus on that.  Concentrate on the smaller things and tackle those, especially if the bigger picture seems daunting.  So start where you are and what you can do to move you to where you want to be.   

Much Love, Nic

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Ice Cream Trucking

Hello, loves! How is life treating you since the last time we came together here? As an adult who is faced with the ridiculous requirement by society to adult, I miss being able to just be a kid again.  Also, still not sure anyone has this adulting thing figured out but I digress.

Sigh, to be a kid again, the days of just trying to have the best day ever!  Riding bikes days on end, avoiding the bully zone with your team of kids there to help you navigate the lay of the kidscape.  Chasing down the sound of the ice cream truck music for that sweet reward of locating the target feeding your belly with the coolness of sweet satisfaction.  Hanging out during recess with other kids in school who wanted nothing but good things for me.   Knowing that it was all about having fun, playing to our hearts content.  Kids would ask you to play not thinking about if you vibed or had the cool this or that.  No, it was just focused on getting your play on coexisting in the neighborhood or playground together as long as you didn’t affect there good times, no issues would pop off for the need to run and tell your mama or visit the principles office.  

Now, as a person attempting with all the best of my ability to be an adult, I understand why so many “adults” have a hard time dealing with other people attempting the adulting process.  The adult landscape is a hard one to navigate when there are unsaid laws of the land and vary by your current longitude and latitude coordinates.  It can become overwhelming to say the least to try to figure out this whole new world of “adulting”.  It can seem like a lonely road to walk alone with all these battles to fight solo, with no time to play, no that’s NOT allowed in Adulthood.

Responsibility…blah blah blah blah, this bill…blah blah blah, food and shelter…blah blah blah, other adults…blah blah blah.  It is so overwhelming to try to keep it all balanced as an adult and trying to engage with other adulting people who are on the same road as you.  Some have become jaded, worn out, abused, and disheartening from walking the road of life.  They engage with others based on their experiences through unkindness, harsh criticism, hate, if only to feel like they can better understand others because they are trying to bring them to the level that they are at.  We are forced to grow up, to have it figured out, with expectations of how your truth for you should look like based on societal standards and comfortability.  We have forgotten about how it was to be a kid, just focused on having the best day ever, sharing that day with others with no concern if the other is like us beyond being a human being,  with the focus only on enjoying the moment.   

So I ask you a simple question, do you want to swing on the swings with me…I’ll push you higher if you push me high, slide down the slide…thanks for letting me go first, play jump rope sharing the one…you jump while I cheer you on.  Oh and run like hell making sure I am running right next to you listening to that music in the distance where I’ll see you at the ice cream truck when we for a brief moment most definitely have something in common, liking and now eating ice cream at the same time together.  Too bad that we can’t think about the bigger connections as adults beyond ice cream, or sorbet for those vegan and lactose intolerant peeps, cause everyone is welcome at the ice cream truck.

With Love, Nic

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Zesty Avocado Cucumber Salad

Hello loves, and happy summer! We are in full on summer, officially anyway, and the foods that we need start to shift to help with the heat and humidity that makes summer, summer. I created this salad months ago when it started to warm up and am now addicted to it. When I say this is my new face summer salad…well THIS is my new summer salad! It is zesty, refreshing, and it just tastes good.

What Ya Need

2 Avocados Large Ripe Rough Chopped

1 Cucumber sliced in rounds (not too thick, but can slice as thin liked)

1/2 red onion sliced thinly in rounds

Dressing:

1/4 cup Lemon Juice

1/2 cup avocado oil

2-3 TBS fresh chopped dill

2-3 cloves minced garlic (depends how garlicky you want it to be)

Salt and Pepper to taste (you want to be heavy on the salt because the cucumbers will release water while sitting)

What Ya Do

  • Add the lemon juice, dill (start with small amount and increase based on taste needs), and garlic, to a small glass bowl.
  • Using a wire whisk add in the avocado oil and whisk to emulsify the oil with the lemon juice.
  • Season with salt and pepper heavily as the cucumbers will release additional water so you want to be sure that the dressing will not be diluted down.
  • Taste dressing for a slight saltiness and if it is zesty enough.
  • In another bowl add the cucumbers and red onion, toss to combine.
  • Add in the cubed ripe avocado and add some of the dressing.
  • Toss to combine adding more of the dressing as needed.
  • For the best flavor impact let sit in the fridge for at least 4 hours or even overnight. The onions and cucumbers will become translucent.
  • Taste before serving to see if additional salt and pepper are needed.
  • Enjoy this refreshing salad.

Hope you enjoy the summer and remember to keep hydrated with water, as well as through the foods that you eat, and be sure to protect your skin from the sun as much as possible, through SPF or protective clothing!

Much Love, Nic

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