How To Do Better For Lasting Change

Hi Loves! In last weeks post I shared that I’m focused on doing better than I did yesterday. My own little way of leveling up each day, with small little mindfulness shifts towards doing what I want to do better in. The instant question that pops up is, well how do I do that? Here are just a few to get the brain thinking and moving a bit, with what may work for your specific life goals.

Skin With Love

If your goal is to clear your skin or create a skin care routine, start by just washing your face. Seems simple, but if you aren’t washing your face every night, just doing it some times or not at all, well that’s a great place to start. Doing this simple action every day, will build over time to a full grown habit. The key to skin care and getting great skin is all about consistency, that is instantly seen for years to come, so keep at. This supports being able to say “wow my skin looks amazing”…goal achieved!

Living With Love

If your goal is that you want to improve your sleep, start with winding down 10 minutes by reading a book or magazine. Put down any electronic device, no more touching until the next day! This time of letting the brain calm and just chill is important in supporting more sound sleep. Reading forces you to focus on the words that you are reading, and you will find over time, the chatter that you may find pops up for you starting out starts to settle down. You can increase the time a little each day, and will notice that you will go right into sleep more easily and wake up much more refreshed.

Food With Love

If your goal is to eat healthier start with eating something green everyday. By adding in foods that you want to eat, that support a healthier eating pattern, they take up the space that you would normally be eating something that was not so healthy. It is the concept of Crowding Out! When you crowd out the space with good things, habits, and such you push out those things and not so great habits. The space becomes filled with, crowded out, with healthier foods and creates a healthier eating habit.

Fit With Love

If your goal is move more than start walking a bit after so much time goes by. If you don’t have a smart watch that vibrates your wrist with reminders to move every hour I will share what I have been doing for the past few months. I call it 90 on 15 off. I work for 90 minutes and then take a 15 minute break to get up, take a walk around and drink water. This helps me stay productive in a realistic timing in getting things done but also not getting caught up in getting things done. This timing really allows for that with the needed benefit of taking a step away and re-calibrating. I find I have more energy and focus afterwards and have gotten some much needed steps in!

Those are just a few, and I do mean a few, ideas on how to do better than the day before. This practice at its core is being mindful. Being mindful is taking the time to take a look at what you are doing and what you want to be doing and, well doing it. Cheers to a year of doing better each day towards doing better all together!

Much Love, Nic ❤️

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And We Start Again…

Hello Loves! Welcome to a new year, a new decade, a new day, to start again. This year my mantra is “do better than I did yesterday”. I wanted to really focus in on taking it day by day. Keeping it in sizable chunks, centered in the land of realistic goal setting.

With that, lets get real here! It is so overwhelming to think about what you need to accomplish over the next year towards smashing your goals. Yup I said it, and I know because it can feel a bit much to process and handle all the things we want to achieve and make changes to. So, going into my Health Coach mode, lets adjust the focus here, lets adjust for achievement. What if you were to just take it day by day? Focused on doing better than you did yesterday?

Well, I can say that I am confident by looking at things from that small little mind shift will lead to a better sense of accomplishment and commitment to the process. When we take things and put them into to more tangible actions it makes it, well less overwhelming. When we are not overwhelmed we are able to do such great and wonderful things. We are able to start.

This simple act of starting can cause so many people to stumble when the mind is thinking full picture mode. So take it down to brush strokes, that build to paint the bigger picture! And soon enough brush stroke after stroke, taking a step back to look at the progress made, a work of art has been created. So will you join me in committing to doing better than you did yesterday? Next week I’ll share how doing better each day looks in action.

Much Love, Nic ❤️

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See You Next Year…God Willing

Hello Loves! Sometimes in life you just have to take every single minute of the day and use it all up on yourself! So, off I go to do just that. I am trying to figure a few things out, health, personally, and professionally wise, to get to a place that I feel better about things that I can control. In order to have a better sense of the controlling capabilities that I have, I must take the time to just be and do me.

So I am taking the rest of this year to focus on my plan of action that I have come up with to tune in to me and tune out to the very chatty and noisy world around me. Since I am stepping away from my blog and offline socially, I want to wish everyone a Glorious Halloween, Happy Thanksgiving, a Merry Christmas, and cheers to close out of another year of life for the books!

Have you ever felt like you needed to take some time away from the online “world”? God willing I will be back online at the start of the New Year and the start of a new decade, sharing some exciting news of some sort. Remember this, that it is ok to step away to step into your life in a more connected way.

Much Love, Nic

Will Never Forget When She Told Me This

Hi my loves! Have you every been bullied by a teacher? I have, and it affected me in such a prolific way still till this day. With my blog being a space of lovingly living courageously I thought I would share my own story.

I always remember this teacher that I had that was beyond mean to me and made my life a living hell in elementary school for an entire school year.  She would pick on me in front of the class, comparing me to her favorite student, making me feel stupid, and at times worthless because I was not ever going to be like her fave student.  I remember I would think to myself, I REALLY didn’t want to be like her, she was stuck up, rude and couldn’t even multiply.  I just didn’t want to be ridiculed in front of the class, I just wanted to do my work and go home!

It wasn’t until the summer before my freshman year in high school when I ran into that teacher again that I was in for a shock.  She looked happy to see me…praised how smart I was and always knew that I was, for getting into the school that I was attending in the Fall and how I’d grown into such a stunning, beautiful young lady.  Pan to me, staring in complete shock thinking…what was I to make of these words, were these words what she really thought?  I had always remembered how cruel she was to me and those days I would go the bathroom and just cry my eyes out.  Was this the same teacher?  Being the polite southern girl that I was, I said thank you, forced a smile, and hide until she left.  

A few years later after that I found out that she had passed away from cancer. It was in this moment that my experience with her came into even more of a better perspective.  You do what you are experiencing. If you are unhappy with your appearance you will make other people unhappy with their appearance.  She was overweight and would always make comments about my appearance, and how I thought I was better than everyone else in front of the class.  

When life humbles us we can be kind with our words and attempt to right those wrongs that we have done to other people.  I was not aware but at the time I saw her that summer she had been battling cancer.  Humbled by her current experience, making amends for all those days of heart ache and sadness that she caused me.  Sharing kind words of encouragement that I so longed to hear back then, but can humbly say that I was able to experience years later, than not.  

I never wish hard moments on anyone, but as I stand here on the other side of many a moment of pain and bad experiences, I know how these many things serves us to make us stronger and give us perspective on being better humans.  I never want to make anyone feel how I felt that entire school year in elementary, but feel only the goodness of kind words that summer before the start of high school.  It is that memory, among many others, that guides me to be kind to others.  It is that memory that also allows me the compassion to see people for more than the words that they may share, if only from a place of pain.

Much Love, Nic

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Where You Are Is Good

Happy Friday loves! How has your day, week, been for you? Have you been feeling anything other than yes, today was an amazing day? Get real and be real, that’s how you start acknowledging how you want things to be different than they are. There is always hope for something new and different!

Sometimes life can be and feel overwhelming that when we want to make things better or change things we just don’t know how.  We can become confused or simply feel stuck with just the thought of trying to figure out what direction or move to make to move things in a better direction.  We may think that we have to have something or accomplish this or that before we can begin to make that change.  Lean, in let me whisper something in your ear…you have to start somewhere and there is no better place to start then where you stand. 

Yup, all you can do is be how you are right now and in order to make that something different you must start right there as you exist. I have found that starting at YOUR starting line, can help things seem a little less daunting when you turn in and tune in to where YOU are.  Focus on what can be accomplished from where you are and put things into action.  Once you are in action things will move you in the direction that you need to go in. Obstacles that were once there will disappear or appear not as obstacles but simply stepping stones.

Take the first steps from where you are today, this Friday!  Focus on what you can do from where you are.  There is always something that can be done right where you are, just focus on that.  Concentrate on the smaller things and tackle those, especially if the bigger picture seems daunting.  So start where you are and what you can do to move you to where you want to be.   

Much Love, Nic

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Ice Cream Trucking

Hello, loves! How is life treating you since the last time we came together here? As an adult who is faced with the ridiculous requirement by society to adult, I miss being able to just be a kid again.  Also, still not sure anyone has this adulting thing figured out but I digress.

Sigh, to be a kid again, the days of just trying to have the best day ever!  Riding bikes days on end, avoiding the bully zone with your team of kids there to help you navigate the lay of the kidscape.  Chasing down the sound of the ice cream truck music for that sweet reward of locating the target feeding your belly with the coolness of sweet satisfaction.  Hanging out during recess with other kids in school who wanted nothing but good things for me.   Knowing that it was all about having fun, playing to our hearts content.  Kids would ask you to play not thinking about if you vibed or had the cool this or that.  No, it was just focused on getting your play on coexisting in the neighborhood or playground together as long as you didn’t affect there good times, no issues would pop off for the need to run and tell your mama or visit the principles office.  

Now, as a person attempting with all the best of my ability to be an adult, I understand why so many “adults” have a hard time dealing with other people attempting the adulting process.  The adult landscape is a hard one to navigate when there are unsaid laws of the land and vary by your current longitude and latitude coordinates.  It can become overwhelming to say the least to try to figure out this whole new world of “adulting”.  It can seem like a lonely road to walk alone with all these battles to fight solo, with no time to play, no that’s NOT allowed in Adulthood.

Responsibility…blah blah blah blah, this bill…blah blah blah, food and shelter…blah blah blah, other adults…blah blah blah.  It is so overwhelming to try to keep it all balanced as an adult and trying to engage with other adulting people who are on the same road as you.  Some have become jaded, worn out, abused, and disheartening from walking the road of life.  They engage with others based on their experiences through unkindness, harsh criticism, hate, if only to feel like they can better understand others because they are trying to bring them to the level that they are at.  We are forced to grow up, to have it figured out, with expectations of how your truth for you should look like based on societal standards and comfortability.  We have forgotten about how it was to be a kid, just focused on having the best day ever, sharing that day with others with no concern if the other is like us beyond being a human being,  with the focus only on enjoying the moment.   

So I ask you a simple question, do you want to swing on the swings with me…I’ll push you higher if you push me high, slide down the slide…thanks for letting me go first, play jump rope sharing the one…you jump while I cheer you on.  Oh and run like hell making sure I am running right next to you listening to that music in the distance where I’ll see you at the ice cream truck when we for a brief moment most definitely have something in common, liking and now eating ice cream at the same time together.  Too bad that we can’t think about the bigger connections as adults beyond ice cream, or sorbet for those vegan and lactose intolerant peeps, cause everyone is welcome at the ice cream truck.

With Love, Nic

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Heart Touchy

Hi loves! I was asked about the types of people that warm my heart. Thinking about that question really made me feel the need to highlight these amazing human beings and make me want to champion for their existence in this world.  They have an amazing heart space that deserves to be honored for giving the world more love, kindness and compassion.  A WIN in my book!

#1 Altruistic Champions

I am always amazed at those people who live their lives, I mean their whole existence, focused on helping others.  The ability to make yourself the focus of how you can help someone else.  It is not about them and never will be except the thought of how can I help others that are in need of something for a better quality life.  They understand the impact championing for other people can have and the domino affect that has on the world around us all.  When you exist better, you do better and you are able to give in return to help someone else.       

#2 Open-minded Audacity

To be bold enough to be open to the thoughts outside of your own reality and life experiences.  This quality is something that the world could benefit from with more people like this.  It is an ideal that is based on existing and operating in a place of love, of being able to consider other opinions, thoughts, and lifestyles that are so different from what you may know or can even comprehend.  To be humble enough to not allow your mind to keep you from considering other peoples existence here as not worthy or purposeful because it it is outside of who you are.  

#3 Unapologetic Uniqueness

I love to see my fellow unicorns out there that are okay with dancing to the beat of their own drum with not one care if others can hear the music that they are dancing to in order to understand why you are moving at that rhythm, beat and timing.  You give no cares about others and their understanding of how and why you are the way you are.  You love the way that they were designed to be and by doing so you unknowingly encourage others to embrace themselves as well.  

#4 Not Taking Self Seriously

When you are able to exist from a place of not taking yourself seriously, you have my heart!  Not one single person is so important that they are more valuable than the other.  When you are in a heart space of not taking things seriously you are more open to not taking every life moment as an end all and be all.  You realize that perfection does not exist and do not seek to obtain the unobtainable.  You are better equipped to handle those bumps along the road with grace and humor not allowing it to take you out of the game because you realize that it could be worse and focus on what you can do about it without allowing it to consume you.  Not one person is perfection and for those that know it and able to laugh at their short falls without taking it seriously, I see you and love it.  

#5 Passionately Life Living

We all have seen people who have an unwavering zeal for experiencing the many things that they can within their life, or maybe this is who you are.  You aren’t afraid to try new things, or if you are embracing that, fear is the task at hand along the path towards achievement.  You truly live every moment as if it is the last moment on this earth.  Celebrating the small things in life right along with the big things, because every accomplishment is an achievement that deserves to be celebrated.  You are living your life on purpose and that becomes part of your book of life that you are writing each day on earth.

If you are one or a few of the above, you have won my heart.  My love and support is yours to have, as you are a person that encourages me to come from a place of being open, leading more with love.  You all are important to the world and the balance that is needed to provide solitude and peace to those in need.  You seek to challenge the conventional thoughts that we sometimes have that prevents us from seeing that there are realities outside of our little worlds.  Encouraging that there is nothing to be afraid of from others as long as they are coming from that loving heart space, they seek not to harm but to encourage more love.  There can never be too much love in the world, it is the only thing that can help soothe the pains and start the healing process from experiencing the moments of living life.  

Much Love, Nic

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Strong Timing

Hello, my loves! As I have been working on fine tuning what my life plan looks like for the next ten years the one thing that has come up is the importance of time management.  We only have so many hours in the day and how you choose to use that time to the fullest.  When you map out your goals and dreams and the requirements you gain more clarity about what is needed to accomplish each day to move you towards marking those things as achieved.  With that comes the need, the requirement for time management.

Each day I am mindful when I am engaging in various tasks and conversations if this is the best use of my time and if not, disengage mode is initiated.   I have been practicing this fully for the last 60 days and when I say the level of accomplishing tasks has been on fire, wow, who knew!  As we all know that when we prove that something works that gives us what we want we keep up with it, well at least it does for me.

When you are aware of each thing that you do throughout the day from working on a project, working out, to having conversations with people, you become more aware of the time these things require and if they are worthy of your time and end goal for the day.  You start to do a quick mind analysis of what you currently are engaging with each moment of the day as needed.  You learn to walk away from conversations that are not productive, you make lists of things that need to be done with by when dates and times, and you plan time each day for the things that must get done no matter what.

I promise you that when you are mindful of your actions and engagement with your time you hold yourself accountable for what you have on your lists of things that you want to accomplish.  With that comes an active time set aside and honored for chasing those big, at times scary, but so worth it DREAMS!  Which is the purpose that so many of us seek out, a more purposefully lived and happier life existence.  

This is my strong stance on the importance of being mindful throughout your day and how you are using your time wisely.  So take the time to think about what you want to accomplish, what that looks like time commitment wise every day.  When you make a plan, you set yourself up for success.  I mean who doesn’t want to have that feeling of doing something that you wanted and seeing it come to pass, yeah enjoy those fruits, you earned it.  I can honestly say that it works, look I wrote a new blog post because I put in effort to set aside the time needed to do so…#Goals

Much Love, Nic

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Don’t Look Down…Only Ahead & Up

Hi my loves! What if you just didn’t look down? Never took the time to think about looking down, only looked up and ahead of you? What would happen to you if you did just that? Never thought about how high up you are and the possible danger that lies below? Thought about what it would be like to touch the sky, fly high soaring above in the sky just living your life afraid of nothing but not living? Did I grab your attention…good because we should talk about living the life that you dare dream to live!

I want to talk to day about the importance of looking up and ahead and how when we are focused on what is below us or behind us can keep ourselves stuck, not moving, living or enjoying our lives! So why am I talking about, well writing about, not looking down? Because we limit ourselves living like that in a few ways that may help encourage you to seek looking up and moving ahead so talk about it we must!

You Get To Enjoy The View

When we take the time to enjoy the view that is above there is this instant shift that happens where you experience the world in a unique way. Your perspective shifts and your eyes and mind experience things in a completely different way. Things take on new shapes and colors and shadows shift.

This looking up action also shifts the stress that we sometimes carry in our shoulders, lower back or even in our hearts. This opens that heart-space up a bit wider allowing you to experience things less in your mind but guided through your heart. Allow your heart to guide you and just breathe in a new way while looking up. It’s a great practice to move your body in a different way and this is a great way to get it moving towards looking up!

I challenge you to take the time over the next few weeks and schedule some time to look up. To stop in the most random of places and look up with your whole head, not just your eyes, to enjoy the view that is above you. Really take the time to take in what you are seeing and how you are feeling. This is a great mindfulness practice that allows you to disconnect and just exist in the moment with no thought other than taking in the world around you that is up above.

You Get Inspired Not Terrified

Have you every noticed that if you focus on looking up and not looking down that it helps you to not freak about that fact that you are off the ground. Sometimes when I am high up it helps me to look ahead or just stop and look up at the sky and notice the clouds, the colors that are in the sky or even the weather and how I am experiencing it on my skin. It starts to calm my mind to not think about how high up I am because I am not thinking about that. My mind is focused on what is above me or up ahead.

When you are able to move out of the fear it is lesson to yourself and your mind and body that you can be ok, that you can move past that initial thinking of what lies below. This new thought creates a new reality that you conquered something that was uncomfortable and in that reality it inspires you to be ok with trying it again or something new altogether.

It’s all about focusing on making those tiny little steps and creating those small little shifts that are focused on just that small shift that soon you are able to look at all those small little shifts that you have taken and how they add up to a big change in how you were before.

What is that one place that scares you a bit that you can got to and just look up and ahead to help you embrace that you are capable of existing? Realizing that you will be ok in that space, and that you are more powerful and stronger than you may have ever realized taking on the next challenging experience head on. See how you got this…sometimes we just need those reminders.

Much Love, Nic

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Plant Life Living

Plants are an amazing way to add some earthy vibes to your space that also help promote better air quality. When you have better air quality your well-being is increased and you have a better mood when approaching all areas of your life. When we are at out bests we are doing our best!

Also, there is truth about how you are a product of your environment, and there are some things we all have the power to control. It can simply start with adding a plant to the four main areas that most of us spend a lot of our time in; bedroom, living room, office space and kitchen. We become what we feed ourselves and that also means the type of air that we are taking in.

Bedroom Approved

Snake Plant

This plant should be in every place that people sleep. The main reason that it is perfect for the bedroom is that it converts carbon dioxide into oxygen at night compared to during the day as most other plants typically do. This adding oxygen to the air at night improves sleep quality by increasing access to clean oxygen in the air to breathe in while sleeping. This plant also purifies the air by removing formaldehyde and nitrogen oxide produced by fuel-burning appliances as well. This statement plant is perfect for adding in some style but i It if perfect for the typical lights out status in the bedroom with it surviving in all levels of light and minimal watering needs.

Living Room Approved

English Ivy

This plant is the perfect living room or common areas companion. Most of these spaces are furnished and decorated with various items for both comfort and visual appeal as well as entrance and exit access points. This plant removes benzene from the air a carcinogen found in detergents, pesticides and the off-gassing of synthetic materials, removes formaldehyde, and reported to be great for asthma and allergy sufferers due to its air purification abilities. It is also said to remove airborne mold and feces, adding to its living room location needs, with all the foot traffic being the hub of bringing in the outside world inside. Our living spaces are also filled with items that are likely to contain products that are emitting these types of chemicals into the air. With this area being the most commonly used area, these plants will help provide a healthier living space.

Work-Space Approved

Dracaena

This plant purifies air by removing the chemicals formaldehyde, benzene, toluene, and xylene that are in the air that we breathe. Our work-space usually has furniture, computer equipment, and other plastics components that all release the chemicals that they are made up of into the air. This plant is perfect for counteracting the impact of breathing in those chemicals by cleaning the air of those chemicals. This plant is not only great at air purification it is also a very attractive plant that will add some color and life to your work space. It is also perfect for those that may work in a cubical space or a closet turned office space as it does well in very little light.

Kitchen Approved

Spider Plant

This plant is perfect for hanging out in the kitchen because you can also hang it from the ceiling if counter space is an issue. It is also a very resilient plant that can sustain its self in various conditions and requires little care at all. It is kitchen perfection for its ability to purify the air as well as remove odors, fumes, and pollutants that are commonly found in the kitchen area.

There you have plants that you can add to the different areas of your home to help with your environment to be less toxic. If you do have pets, take the time to do additional research about if the plants that are in your shared space with your paw family members that it won’t harm them. Which plant interests you or do you already have plants?

Much Love, Nic

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